Relationship With Yourself

Your relationship with yourself is the only one worth going out of your way to preserve. Because sometimes people tell you they’ll always be there for you and a week later they’re telling you to have a nice life. Then you’ll feel stupid about the time you put their feelings above your own when they don’t care about hurting you at all.

Someone who actually cares about your happiness will understand if you tell them you have to make a choice for yourself for once. We all need time to think every once in a while. We all feel like we’re having mid life crises in our mid twenties. We all sometimes wish we had a pause button on our lives, or a time machine, or a crystal ball.

It’s these times when you need the people you care about to be behind you, not a roadblock in front of you, preventing you from going forward. It’s hard to explain to someone that you love them just as much as ever but you need them to play a different part in your life now. And it’s okay for that person to not understand or to get mad or hurt but it’s not okay for them to try to stop you or sabotage you or try to hurt you back. And it’s definitely not okay for them to guilt you or insult you or tell you you’re wrecking your life because what gives them the authority to know that?

Remember that even if other people don’t understand or misinterpret your decisions, they are your decisions. And as long as they’re not illegal or dangerous, those other people don’t get to say whether or not they’re right or wrong. The only person whose opinion should matter is yourself. Make yourself proud. Learn, grow, meet new people, excel at your job, and never turn down an opportunity because someone else tells you to.

Nothing is the end of the world because even if everyone leaves, you’ll still have yourself. And you’ll still have endless opportunities to start over and be whoever you want to be, even if you have no idea who that is yet.